Tuesday, December 2, 2008

7 Online Dating Tips

There are 7 tips; you must arm yourself with before venturing into online dating:

First - Do your homework before selecting an online dating site to join. Always test the waters with their free trial offer. If they don’t offer a free trial, move on!

Second - Cruise their site. Randomly check out their members, both male and female. If you had a party, would you invite most of these members? If not, this isn’t the place for you.

Explore their features; make sure they have flexible options. Mainly, there should be extensive “search” options.

Third – Choose an appropriate User Name. Be careful...you can use a “play” on words, but please make sure it isn’t offensive.

Also, avoid overtly sexual “user names”. I personally avoid profiles that have obvious or even hidden sexual meanings.

That is not the way to introduce yourself to strangers. I promise you, the responses you receive will be sexually obscene.

Fourth - Take your time putting up your profile. Make sure it is thoughtful, informative, and mature. If you come across as a silly, immature person...? That’s exactly the type of people you will attract.

Upload a fairly current and flattering photo.

Fifth - Customize your site. Make it stand out. If you have a favorite poem, add it. If you fancy yourself as a sketch artist, include a couple of your favorites.

Sixth – I suggest listing your “ground rules”.

On all of my dating profiles, I list what I will not respond to:

No photo? No response! (5% of the time I will break this rule. It depends on their initial email.)

I will not respond to “flirts”! You know the ones: “hey you” “smile” “kiss” “wink”
“I am interested in you” “you’re beautiful” etc.

I’m really not sure why, but the “flirts” really get under my skin!

Seventh – Prepare a basic “thanks-but-no-thank” email to send to someone you have absolutely no interest in. I’ve used the same one for years:

“Thanks for your interest, but I believe someone else would be better suited for you than me. Good luck in your search.”

Online dating should be fun! But you must set yourself up correctly...to get control of your online dating “environment”. This is your place...enjoy it!

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7 Online Dating Tips You Must Have

There are 7 tips; you must have before getting involved with online dating:

First - Do your homework before selecting an online dating site to join. Always test the waters with their free trial offer. If they don’t offer a free trial, move on!

Second - Cruise their site. Randomly check out their members, both male and female. If you had a party, would you invite most of these members? If not, this isn’t the place for you.

Thoroughly check out the features of each site; make sure they have flexible options. Mainly, there should be extensive “search” options.

Third – Choose an appropriate User Name. Be careful...you can use a “play” on words, but please make sure it isn’t offensive.

Please avoid overtly sexual “user names”. I personally refuse to respond to profiles that have obvious or even slightly hidden sexual meanings.

That is not the way to introduce yourself to strangers. I promise you, the responses you receive will be sexually obscene.

Fourth – Spend time putting up your profile. Don’t just “slap” something up and expect quality responses. Make sure it is thoughtful, informative, and mature. This will determine the types of people you will attract.

Upload a fairly current and flattering photo.

Fifth - Your profile should say: “You”. Make it stand out. If you have a favorite poem, add it. If you fancy yourself as a sketch artist, include a couple of your favorites.

Sixth – I suggest listing your “ground rules”. Things you will tolerate, and things you won’t.

On all of my dating profiles, I list what I will not respond to:

No photo? No response! (5% of the time I will break this rule. It depends on their initial email.)

I will not respond to “flirts”! You know the ones: “hey you” “smile” “kiss” “wink”
“I am interested in you” “you’re beautiful” etc.

I’m really not sure why, but the “flirts” really get under my skin!

Seventh – Prepare a basic “thanks-but-no-thank” email to send to someone you have absolutely no interest in. I’ve used the same one for years:

“Thanks for your interest, but I believe someone else would be better suited for you than me. Good luck in your search.”

Online dating should be fun! But you must set yourself up correctly...to get control of your online dating “environment”. This is your home...make it yours! Follow these tips, and have the time of your life!

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